Propinquity

Propinquity :"In social psychology, propinquity (from Latin propinquitas, nearness) is one of the main factors leading to interpersonal attraction. It refers to the physical or psychological proximity between people. Two people living on the same floor of a building, for example, have a higher propinquity than those living on different floors. Propinquity can mean physical proximity, a kinship between people, or a similarity in nature between things."

"The propinquity effect is the tendency for people to form friendships or romantic relationships with those whom they encounter often. In other words, relationships tend to be formed between those who have a high propinquity."

From Wayne's blog

Okay my indentation's gone weird. I'll live with it. (: uermmmm. I've been wanting to talk about it. Been thinking of his post, and how strongly I agree with it. al agreed with me when I told her about it. I think we both don't believe in the romantic fluff of true love, or of some dude/tte living in south africa pining for you and whom neither will be complete till they meet while one is walking in/out of the airpoirt toilet etc. What I found more interesting then, was the extrapolated implication then that the current boyfriend I am with (who has yet to exist), would have been as likely to have been someone else, if I only I had been working/studying/living somewhere else. And that's why people have affairs, don't they. (wandering off a tangent here. since it doesn't seem quite relevant.) Because they interact with someone on a longer time span and therefore gain a higher propinquity with that person than they currently do with their spouse/lover. So... when people sprout phrases about how i-love-him-more-than-i-love-you-and-i-believe-in-love-so-i-will-follow-him, what they are really saying is, that they have a higher propinquity with the other scum thing. (you know I cherish a certain nonsensical and terribly prejudiced notion that all men are scum.) And the ultimate conclusion is that love is a choice, isn't it. I could marry/get attached to some/any dude who fits the general terms and conditions, and the rest of it is to choose to honour and love him.

No wonder pearlyn's mantra chants along the lines of Boys are Bad. heh.

Other notes-

1. I'm going to cut bangs tomorrow! I've seen a preview, cz al showed me how to fold my hair just so and I look weird but there is simply no other time and I would like a change.

2. Eyebrow, or lambret piercing? I have yet to decide.

3. I wrote a bit more. (:

okay la, I'm just laladwaddlingmmming around now. Because there's Love, love and love. smile for me.